My heart is in the east and I in the west of the west: so how
Can I savor sweetness, taste any food, or even call it mine?
How can I make good my vows, my pledge, with Zion now
Held by the crusades of Edom, and me in Arabian chains?
The burden would be light to leave behind all ease of Spain
To see that mighty light, the simple dust of our Ruined Shrine.
(Judah ha-Levi, 12th C.)
My Body is in the East, My Heart in the Extreme West
The land knows where the clouds come
from and whence the hot wind
Where hatred and whence love.
But its inhabitants are confused, their
heart is in the East
And their body in the far West
Like migratory birds who lost their summer and winter,
Lost in the beginning and the end, and
To the end of pain all their days.
(Yehuda Amichai, 20th C.)Native-born Israelis are called Sabras, for this cactus that is prickly on the outside and soft on the inside
I know that our friends Nancy and Mark have been reading this blog. We spent New Year’s Eve with them a year ago, and when they told us that they were thinking of making aliyah/moving to Israel, I (basically) said, “WHAT?! Are you CRAZY?”
Let me eat my words now. It is not crazy at all.
For a moment, leave aside the socio-economic and political realities and difficulties of Israel. Imagine instead what it means for a practicing Jew, living as a minority wherever you live in the Diaspora, of coming to a place that reeks of things Jewish, that revolves around the Jewish calendar, whose very street names remind us daily of our centuries-old history. Even a secular Jew lives a Jewish life in Israel. Shabbat is not just another day — the whole week revolves around it.
Or think of those Jews who came to Israel not for spiritual/religious reasons, but for sanctuary. I think of Malka, my kibbutz roommate. She was then a 16-year old girl from Ethiopia who had trekked through the Sudan to make it to Israel, leaving behind her family for a better life — for life itself. She cried herself to sleep every night, and I didn’t know how to help her. I just knew that while I was on kibbutz to learn Hebrew and return to college in the U.S., she was on kibbutz to learn Hebrew and make a new life in Israel as best she could.
When I lived on that kibbutz in 1981, I was pretty sure that I would make aliyah one day. What a high it was to run through the forest there, past the kibbutz cemetery, to reach the top of the mountain and view the entire Jezreel Valley stretched before me. Reading the Bible, knowing the ancient history that took place in that place, in those long-ago days, feeling part of a long chain of longing to be in that place, that historic land.
When I returned to the States after that stay, I stopped running. After graduating from college and moving to Santa Cruz, CA, I tried again, but the gorgeous beach along the Monterey Bay was no match for the mountains above the Jezreel Valley. It wasn’t the same high, connecting the physical with the geographical with the spiritual.
And then in 1982, the news of Sabra and Shatilla hit me with all its horror, and my illusions about Israel were punctured. I was in true crisis then, joined a writing/theatre group comprised of other disillusioned lovers of Israel, and wrote out my love, my pain, my longing. Our readers’ theatre group was a lifeline and also a hornet’s nest of dissension. There were members to the left of me who questioned the very existence of Israel as a Jewish state. What I wanted to do was to hold the principled middle, to work from within, as a loving critic. All of those debates made their way into our writing and our performances.
But in 1985 on a return trip to Israel with an interfaith peace group that presented mostly the ugly of Israel, I disengaged completely. (Here I was, someone connected to Israel whose disappointment was so great that I had disengaged. What about those who never engage in the first place?) It was so traumatic that I had a hard time returning to Israel for my year in Israel for rabbinical school in 1988 and tried to place out of my first year there. But go, I did, and despite my mother’s death during that year, I re-engaged, and fell in love again with the land and people of Israel.
Perhaps it is not a coincidence that I fell in love with and married a man with his own complicated history with Israel. His hinges most deeply on religion and family issues, with politics in the background. While I had been back to Israel three times since my rabbinical school year (not including this visit), Chaim had not been back at all in that same time period. Even in his last visit in the 80’s, he had not visited his mother’s grave as it held such painful memories.
So this trip was redemptive for him, for me, and for us as a couple. I wanted to see Kfar Chabad, where he grew up, with which he has a love-hate relationship. Accomplished. And to stand by him as he visited his parents’ and grandson’s graves. Accomplished. And to know that he made contact with his sister. Accomplished.
None of this is to imply that aliyah is in the cards for us. It’s not. But it was important for me to reconnect to that innocent place of first love and infatuation with Israel and to hold that alongside my adult engagement with realpolitik.
Writing daily has been an incredibly important spiritual experience for me and helpful as a way to chronicle my time in Israel.
Perhaps it has encouraged those of you who’ve never been to Israel to think about going, to experience Israel firsthand, not only through the news reports. Israel is not the sacred cow of the right which can do no wrong, nor is it the devil incarnate that the far left might paint. It is, as my friend Ronnie wrote in a comment to my blog, “that complicated, impossible, and necessary homeland that is Israel.” Its very imperfection calls to us to respond, to engage, to commit.
On Saturday, February 9, Chaim and I will be reflecting on our trip after services at CBI in North Adams, MA. Please come!
A number of people have encouraged me to continue this blog. If you are one of them, please let me know if you are particularly looking for something that would be Israel-centered or, if something else, what?
Thanks for reading!
17 Shevat/Sunday, January 27, 2013, Riverdale, NY — AKA “the Far West”
Welcome back Pam! Can’t wait to hear your stories in person xo
Not crazy at all!
Welcome back, Pam. I have thoroughly enjoyed reading your blog. Have been educated, and inspired and introduced to new ideas and organizations doing meaningful work. If you continue blogging, I will continue reading.
Glad you had such a intentional, wonderful, and meaningful trip.
Pam, thank you for including me in your blog! I have read every one and enjoyed them all. I feel your sense of longing for place and an experience that is far away from your life here. As a person of faith, not Jewish, I have been touched by your passion and I love how articulate you are in expressing it. I loved reading about your experience and would keep reading as long as you keep writing.
Pam, thank you for sharing your experiences and your innermost and personal thoughts. The two poems are beautiful and expressive of the duality of feeling about Israel. Again, you write so well, expressing complex and myriad thoughts — life is complex! keep writing, you do it so well. You have touched me and, I imagine others, with you writing and thoughts.
What an extraordinary journey you have had — and what an extraordinary travelogue you have written. I feel blessed to have been able to glimpse these moments in Israel through your eyes. Thank you for writing. (And I hope you will continue doing so — I value your voice and your perspective.) May this time in Israel continue to be a blessing for you and Chaim in days and years to come.
Thank you Pam!
Pam, While I wasn’t able to read all your blogs, I have saved them. You are a gifted writer with a sharp intellect and warm heart and therefore I would urge you to keep writing and sharing. It’s hard to find the passionate middle ground, yet you seem to constantly do so, not accepting even while understanding. Most people are unable to give voice to such positions since they seek answers. Wrestling with dilemmas is never favored. Would you consider putting all your Israel blogs together in a pdf and sending them out? Maybe you’re thinking of publishing them in some other fashion, but I’d love to have the complete set in one, properly copyrighted, version.
I have gushed to several people since the October Mussar Kallah about your chanted aliyah blessings, drashes in their own right that provided profound insights. I was especially moved by the one you gave about Abraham’s ten trials, and how some commentators say that he didn’t succeed at each one, but rather he was willing to tackle them and that’s what made him worthy of emulation. If you ever get the chance, I’d appreciate the references to those commentators. All the best, Gary
Your blog has been wonderful. I wish that I had time to read all of them, for what I have read has been nourishing. Your insight and writing is superb. Perhaps if you continued once a week I could keep up with them all. I can’t wait to see you!
Thanks for sharing!
As Sari has begun to learn about Judaism in a (formal) way that I never had, I read the blog with a different perspective…..
Thanks for sharing and love to you both!
Loved all of your postings. Would keep reading – Mom still sick, will share with her when she is up to it. I have never followed a blog, made me feel like I was sharing your life each night. I have missed many years of your life. I know we are not close to caught up, but I feel closer to you. In case I don’t get to write you, Happy early birthday! Welcome to – well, not sure if I should post our age! Love ya!